Archive for ‘Marriage’

December 8, 2010

Why Married men are less Anti-Social

I have seen an article in TIME website regarding this. I started thinking and relating to many people whom I know and have changed to less anti-social. The statement seemed so true. A good marriage civilizes men.

Once the men are married, they start taking more and more responsibilities. The agression starts converting to passiveness. They tend not to get involved in any illegal activities. They stop eating outside food and reduce boozing which would improve their health when compared to what they were as bachelors. Men start thinking about cars for bikes after marriage for different reasons and one among them would be safety.

I felt that many men stop or reduce socialising with friends which would actually not give them a chance to think about anything other than the family responsibilities. This would reduce right from fist fights between the friends to drunken driving with the friends to racing on the roads with them.

As men grew older with the marriage, that also would play a significant role in these changes in men. At the end is this change for good or bad – Definitely for good.

January 14, 2010

Happy Married Life

I am dedicating this space to my good friends Rinesh and Shradha on occasion of their marraige and heartfelt wishes to the couple. I think this is the only marriage among my friends where I have attended all the functions and parties. I was there right from Mehendi, Sangeet, Marriage, Reception and Bachelors Party. I had a great time and met my good friends from engineering.

July 8, 2009

Officially Dependant

Day before yesterday Swetha has got her Dependant Pass here in Singapore. Now she is officially dependant on me and has to show the pass every where and for everything. Its a bit difficult to digest that somebody is dependant on me as I myself depend on my friends for many things. I shall try to do my best and be responsible with this new role 🙂

May 28, 2009

My view on "Life after marriage"

Hmmm this is a common discussion which comes between friends when somebody is recently married. There is a saying in hindi “shaddi ka laddu khaye tho pachthavoge, na khaye tho bhi pachthavoge”. In recent times I have been pestered with this question lot of times by many of my friends.

Before getting married any couple would think a lot about their partners and how they would spend the rest of the life. Everybody would think that they would not repeat the mistakes other couples are doing. They would have already seen so many couples including their own parents. Both the partners would write a huge list of do and don’ts and would think of sticking to it for rest of their lives. But do they really stick to it?

In my view after marriage many couples unknowingly will definitely repeat the same mistakes that are there in the list prepared by them. Its been ages that people have been trying hard to describe the life after marriage and each has their own perspective and there is no general way of describing it.

Popular picture we see for life after marriage

In order to avoid such mistakes or fights or issues between the couples they should be mature enough to understand their roles and responsibilities before getting married. Also they should be in a position to appreciate the likes and dislikes of each other. On a lighter note I hope there was a certification exam which a person should pass to understand if he or she is ready to get married.

Our parents are always there to guide us and make us understand the responsibility of marriage and what marriage is all about. Both the wife and husband should understand their responsibilities as a spouse and soul mate before the marriage and get prepared for it and live to the commitments and then begin new life. Otherwise life is more like a burden with petty issues and fights and finger pointing at each other.

Finally I would stop this post with this quote which I have read some where. “The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.”

February 2, 2009

My Wedding Invitation

January 14, 2009

31 Days more

From today its only 31 days left for the major event of my life. Yes, thats my marriage. Even Though I am away from home I am regularly asking about the preparations going on at home so that I can feel as if I am part of all the proceedings. The 10 days that I was in Hyderabad, I had helped in the below:

My marriage shopping is done. (Includes some formals and the kurta paijama)
Marriage hall is finalized. (Maha Rana Pratap function hall)
The menu is finalized. (Around 30 items have been selected and Krishna being the cook)
The camera man is finalized. (Satyanarayana has been finalized over Ravi who did a bad job at Raghav’s marriage)

I wish to be part of all the other preparations. Dad has taken care of all many things with out any help from me. So when I go for marriage I am looking forward to take the things from there and help dad to make it a grand event.

I will be leaving for Hyderabad on 6th of Feb, thats one week before my marriage. So very much looking forward to go for the big day. The clock is ticking.

October 22, 2008

Changes in life with Marriage News

Below are the observations I have made after the news of my marriage.

  • Increase in work (This is no way related to the news but this was coincidental).
  • Increase in phone bill (This was a known thing).
  • Lack of sleep (I did not see this coming).
  • Wishes from friends (This is obvious).
  • Decrease in number of calls to home (Work and phone calls to friends and girl is giving me less time to call back home).
  • Started walking and dieting (Started feeling conscious and I want to be in a good shape by the time of marriage).
October 14, 2008

Golden Period in Life

This post is just to write about the time in my life where I enjoyed every bit of it.

Even though I don’t remember, when I was a kid at the age below 3 years there was complete freedom to do what ever I want and get all the pampering in the world.

When I finished my 10+2 and finished counseling, I had all the time in the world for 4 months to just enjoy rather than studying something.

When I finished my engineering and was free for almost 8 months enjoying the time. Even though this period is full of mixed feelings, I always managed to enjoy rather than getting tensed about the future.

When my match with a girl got fixed and I was allowed to date the girl officially with the permission of both the parents.

October 14, 2008

Wedding Bells

I did not see this one coming so early. One fine day I got a call regarding this match with the girl. My parents liked her and wanted me to speak to her. I spoke to her the same day and liked her attitude and the way she carried herself through the conversation. I was curious and wanted to see her once directly before I say yes. I went to India and when I saw her immediately I heard the bells ringing.

Four Months exactly from now, I will be taking the responsibility of a lady for a life time. Everybody is excited about the news. I want to make this moment very very special as I will be sharing everything I have to the person I have chosen to spend the rest of my life with. Now I wonder if I would have to surrender all the perks and luxuries of single hood, that is financial, emotional, physical, psychological, and even sleeping peacefully alone at night.

Finally I would say taking this decision of responsibility for life time was very courageous. I am not that excited may because of the tension, but the feeling of getting married is really nice and special.