Archive for ‘Life’

January 4, 2017

What Motivates me to meet friends?

As you guys know I have recently moved to the USA from Singapore. For last 9 years, my life in Singapore has been wonderful, but have always felt that I have missed my friends and cousins who got settled in the US. As soon as I dropped in US, I started my travel to meet my long lost friends and cousins. I have travelled 14 states so far in 5 months and met my cousins and many of my friends from school and college. All these trips have been just to meet people rather than to see the place.

One of these trips was a trip to Madison Wisconsin to meet my college friend Kalyan. Srikanth and I flew to Minnesota to meet up Ravi and from there we drove to Madison. It was really nice to meet Kalyan’s mom whom I am seeing after more than 7 years. Also I got to meet and know his wife Sailaja. During this trip we went out for drinks and in that discussion came a question from Kalyan.

“Even though we want to meet, we find reasons to postpone the trips or skip the meeting, rather you find reasons and always try to meet. What motivates you to travel so far to meet people. What is the driving factor?”

At that moment, I gave some answer which even I was not convinced about. Since then more than a week has passed and I have already done another road trip to 4 states to meet friends and cousins. Fortunately during this trip I got a chance to drive alone for more than 12 hours straight which helped me to ponder up on that question. I guess the answer involves two factors intermingling. One my passion for travel and two my love for friends and cousins. I don’t really want to write about why I travel as its a topic for another day. Now the question is “Why I go to such great lengths to meet friends and family”.

When I was a kid, my dad taught me the difference between a classmate and a friend. So until I came to college, I always had not more than 5 friends (whom I chose very carefully) in a class of more than 50. I wouldn’t even bother about other people in the class. This might also be because of my shyness which has costed dearly with respect to knowing my classmates. But ever since I joined my graduation, I was matured/bold enough to talk to new people and make new friendships. This experience at MGIT has made me realise that I was very natural at making friends and maintaining the relationships.

From there on, I have been instrumental (self boasting) in bringing friends together and keeping the group intact. I have done a reunion for my school friends when I was in my first job. Even when I moved to Singapore, I made sure I don’t miss any marriage of my cousins and friends and had tried to meet up with everyone whenever possible. Recently I have taken the initiative of a small reunion with school friends in the US. I have also started multiple whatsapp groups to make sure we are all in touch with each other.

Having said all the above, I would say the below reasons keep me going:

1. Cannot afford to loose friends: It’s very difficult to start a friendship/relationship. Once that bond is formed, we cannot afford to loose that connection with friends. In this materialistic world, getting a good friend without expecting anything from you is very difficult. So I try to treasure such friendships and relationships.

2. Once a friend always a friend: All these friends whom I have met in last 5 months, I am meeting them after many years. But the moment we met, we could kick off from where we left it. So there is no awkwardness or tension when you start the conversation.

3. Happiness: I find happiness in these small meetings when you share those old moments which you have lived/shared together. Everyone whom I have met have shared their appreciation for taking this step and meeting them. It was very welcoming for me to do more of it.

3. Kal ho na ho: In my life, I have found couple of examples where in people were devastated for not meeting up with friends before it got too late.

4. Travel: As I told above, I love travelling and I use these opportunities to meet friends as a reason to hit the road.

5. Just for the sake of it: Going out and meeting friends just for the sake of it without any reason. What worse can happen apart from some laughs together.

6. May be for a reason: I believe we all are in this world for a reason. When we meet our friends, we might be at the right time at the right place and something amazing might happen to you or your friend because of this meeting. Recently a friend called me to check about what’s going on at my end and also shared about his struggles with job search. That call changed his fate as I was able to arrange an interview which helped him get a job.

Finally I would say, not everyone can do as what I am doing. I am sure everyone will have their own reasons for doing what they are doing. But I would say, we need to be in touch with our friends atleast through a call or message so that we will all have more and more wonderful moments together.

March 8, 2015

Happy Women’s Day

Today is 8th March 2015, is International Women’s Day. I would like to dedicate this post to all those women who has influenced my life at some point.

Where else can I start apart from writing about my mom. Today whatever I am and whatever is my personality is all because of my mom. She has been guiding us (my brother and me) through out our lives. She has been telling us what is right and what is wrong. Frankly my respect for women has come from what ever my mom taught me. She is the reason why I have not been influenced with the foul language even though many around me use it. I would give credit to my mom for what I ever good person I have become today. I can go on and on. I wish I was with you today but I take this opportunity to let you know that I love you unconditionally and wish you a very happy women’s day.

image

Next person who has influenced me was my best friend and cousin Ramya. I have learned how to be strong from her. She has taught me how to behave with girls. I was very timid until I met her and she is the reason behind my confidence when I approach someone. I love her for her guts and the determination. Ramya you are such a beautiful soul and I love you for what you are. Happy Women’ Day to you.

1234408689568

Dolly is my lovely sister who has been with me during my most important phase of life. I have learned from her as how to love someone unconditionally. She has been with me during thick and thin. Even though she was my little sister, she has always guided me in the right direction and have always boosted my confidence. Even through the rough patches you have never left my side. I love you Dolly for everything and thanks a lot for being there when needed and I wish you a very happy women’s day.

Picture 093

During college I had the best friend any one can get. If it was not for her, I wouldn’t have got even those marks that I got in my Bachelors. She has been a strong figure and have always guided and motivated me. She is someone who is always there to give a shoulder to lay my head and cry when I am sad. Even though we speak once a year, we are still the best buddies. I love you Jitna for being my best friend during and after college. I wish you a very happy women’s day.

Picture 001

Many people have different opinions regarding marriage. For me marriage brought wonders into my life. Swetha is the best thing happened in my life. Everyone say marriage changes people, but with Swetha, I am still the same. She has never stopped me from being me. She has been more of a best friend than a wife. I love her for that trade in her. Thanks to her the second best thing Shannu happened in my life. Thanks Swetha for everything and happy women’s day.

SONY DSC

Finally its Shannu who has brought lot of happiness in life. I would wish you the women’s day when you grow up. Until then I love you so much Shannu.

10382266_10154186999180398_3808702497690359822_o

March 8, 2015

Khat – The Letter

Its been more than a year I have even logged into this blog. Today I tumbled up on a beautiful video which makes sense of life. Its all about basics of life and if everyone follow them then our life will be beautiful.

I would like to write the letter to my daughter and hope to see her grow with a beautiful soul.

Dear Sharvani,

Welcome to this world

This is a beautiful, lovely and amazing place

and you have been sent here to make it more beautiful and amazing

Who sent us??

Nobody has been able to know that till date

and probably its not even important

so please don’t waste your time on such questions

We all have a limited time here

There is so much to see

There is so much to know

and there is so much to experience

that you don’t have any time to waste

Possibilities are endless

You can become anything

You can do anything

You can change the world

Try something new everyday

Try to learn and understand something new

and if in doubt

remember

Its always better to regret about something after doing it

rather than regretting without doing it

because by doing something

even if you don’t gain anything

you will gain experience

which is very valuable

Experience everything

But don’t get addicted

Experience will help you differentiate right from wrong

It will prevent you from committing mistakes

but don’t be afraid of committing mistakes

because only those who does something make mistakes

Take responsibility for your mistakes

and try to rectify them

Forgive other people’s mistakes

and give them a chance to rectify it

No one likes to commit mistakes

No one misbehaves on purpose

You don’t know whats going on in anyone’s life

so treat everyone the way you treat yourself

be as lenient to others as you are to yourself

Respect everyone

Trust everyone

and most important

Love everyone

Love is very sparse in this world and everyone needs it

You will need it too

Don’t hesitate to ask for it

Don’t hesitate to show it

Life is too short to be shy or be in doubt

Dance like there is no tomorrow

Sing with all your heart

Eat as much as you can

Laugh loudly

and always cry like a baby

Only your body should grow old

not your heart

The day you loose your childishness and innocence

You loose your life

Think about the future

but don’t worry about it

Think about the past

but don’t get lost in it

There will be good days and bad days

Don’t boast too much when the days are good

Don’t loose hope when the days are bad

Don’t give yourself all the credit for your success

and never blame others for your failures

Just keep moving forward

Keep spreading happiness

and always remember

You have been sent here just for one reason

To make this world

more beautiful

and more amazing

Lots of Love

Dad

Source: Youtube

February 12, 2012

Year in Review 2011

For last one week I am not having any work and getting bored. Today was no different for me. I’m sitting here at my office and getting bored. All day I have been looking into cricket statistics. Getting into mid of February, my blog is still waiting for a review post of what happened in last one year. I have couple of hours to go home and as I am waiting I’d like to take a quick look back at 2011, with a YEAR IN REVIEW

I am trying hard to memorize as what has happened in this year. So in parallel I am taking help of my own blog postings and Facebook timeline and activity log.

JANUARY 2011: Year started off well with a nice Year end count down and party. Watched lot of movies as usual. Had a good time on the occasion of Swetha’s birthday. Yet another year without any hike and do not have a reason why I should stay in the current job. As the month came to an end, the only positive feeling that took into next month is about mom and dad coming to Singapore.

FEBRUARY 2011: The month started off with mom and dad visiting Singapore. We travelled around in Singapore and also visited Malaysia and Indonesia. We started the year of runs with the Zoo run of 8KM. February 12th was Ramya’s second anniversary and February 14th, Valentines day was my second marriage anniversary. Swetha & I were very happy as we spent quality time with mom & dad. Cricket World Cup 2011 has started with a bang.

MARCH 2011: March has always been special for me as its the month of my birthday. Had a great time on my birthday with mom and dad. After mom dad left Singapore, our good time continued and we enjoyed all the weekends. Holi was a highlight as we had a great time at ECP. In World Cup, India defeated Australia and Pakistan in Quarters and Semis respectively. We also started our $1000 budget month in March. Most important, I completed 3 years of blogging.

APRIL 2011: April started of with Ramya fooling me about her trip to SG. India won the world cup after 27 years beating Sri Lanka in the final. We all cheered Team India and Sachin. Started using Windows Live writer for my blogging. My best buddies marriage anniversary. This is the month when my blog reached 14000 visitors. Celebrated Ugadi nicely with all the friends coming home. Celebrated Nagaraj’s birthday at Khalsa Club. Our running continued with 12KM run at 2XU compression run. After mom and dad, my brother came to Singapore for a short trip. I had a nice time with him.

MAY 2011: May was full of fun as Nagaraj’s family was in Singapore and we had a great time. As they were in Singapore we went out for Bowling, Wake Boarding, Ice Skating and did many other activities. We also went to see the Air Show where we got a chance to sit in the F-16 fighter jet. My team also won 2 matches comprehensively after 6 straight losses.

JUNE 2011: June started off with birthday party of Surya at Arab street. June 4th weekend was frenzy as I watched 13 Movies, played 4 Hours of Badminton and did 2 Hours of shopping. First week was awesome with lot of movies, games and parties including Rakesh’s anniversary party. This is the month when we discovered about the hottest chicken wings at Sunset Grill and Bar. We successfully completed our first ever National Vertical Marathon by climbing Singapore’s tallest building. We also did a charity walk barefoot for Barclay’s bare your soul walk.

JULY 2011: July was a calm month for me with not much activities other than running. We successfully completed Race against cancer – 15KM and Marina 21KM. Both the run I was able beat my best timing.

AUGUST 2011: August month also did not see any activity for us. It was just the routine. We had a nice time at Santosh and Sowmya’s birthdays. Other than Credit Suisse beach volley ball and Director’s Premier league cricket, I haven’t played much. Wished my brother and dad on their birthdays. We ended the last weekend with bar hopping.

SEPTEMBER 2011: September month was rocking and hectic for us. Swetha & I went to Hong Kong and Macau. It was an awesome trip and we also did our world’s highest bungee jump. couple of weeks later we went along with my whole gang to Bangkok for Bachelors party of Amar & Praveen. We also did our level Rock Climbing certification this month.

OCTOBER 2011: October started off with a day trip to Pulau Ubin, where we have taken some very nice action photos. Diwali was fun as we have again tried some skills of photography. We had a crazy weekend night when we left home in the evening and came back only in the morning at 7AM. It was also special as it was the month of mom’s birthday. Amar got married this month and we all wished him at the airport. The most exciting part of October was a present from Swetha. I was very very much impressed with her work. He created a video with my photos and a song in the background. The timing was impeccable.

NOVEMBER 2011: November was a tragic month for my family. Swetha and her family have gone through agony and pain due to the tragic death of Sreekanth.

DECEMBER 2011: With in a month we had another bad news of my grand father’s expiry. I was not so sad as he got relief from pain that he was going through. Swetha & I have done our Singapore Standard Chartered Marathon. I have done the full while Swetha did the half marathon.

Even though I started writing about this on a weekend, I am ending this on a weekend as it took some time to recollect of what has happened over a year. I wish my new year will have more and more adventures and stories to talk about.

November 3, 2011

Weird/Amazing Experiences/Things that I did in life

Name at least 10 weird/amazing experiences/things about your life.
I came across this in some blog hopping.

Now once I started this, I couldn’t really stop as I got many endless experiences to write here. But I thought I will only mention the ones which can be shared with everyone ;). Some are good, some are funny and some are sad.

As it is at least 10, I did not limit it to 10.

1. Singing in a school singing competition. My brother had to face the embarrassment (we both were from the same school) as I literally read the wordings of the song rather than singing.

2. When I was a kid (may be 5 or 6-year-old), I was almost drowned in a river. I almost took my brother who came to help me. At the same time god has sent a saviour who was washing his clothes there.

3. After being a grown up kid, I almost killed Kishore by choking his throat. I cried for more than half an hour after that.

4. I am the one who bought the first drink for many of my cousins & friends (mainly the female ;)).

5. Once I drank Pepsi with full of chilli flakes as part of a challenge. I would never do that again in my life.

6. I climbed Mount Kinabalu and had explored both the Timpohon and Mersilau trails. I would climb again if Swetha would join me.

7. I had many close encounters with “death”. I was never worried about any of those accidents, but cannot forgive myself for one such accident in which Vijay got badly injured.

8. Did the world’s highest bungee jump at Macau and I would do it again and again 🙂

9. Took money from dad’s pocket when I was a kid and got a nice bashing for that.

10. I had twice touched 160 km an hour speed in a car and once touched 130 km an hour on bike. It was an exhilarating experience and hope to cross those speeds.

11. Had hiccups for almost 2 full days and had a real bad time. Mind you hiccups just seem so simple, but they are not.

12. I wasted 1 year 8 months in my life without having a proper vision to my life. People don’t believe but I feel bad about it even today.

13. Due to my sleep I missed my destinations many a times since my childhood and it’s still going on now.

14. I have done a marathon of movies and saw 20 movies over a weekend. This is something which I am trying to beat almost every month 😉

15. Did couple of half marathons without any practice and now planning for full marathon this December.

16. Climbed Singapore’s tallest building using steps. It was definitely painful, but the view at the end was relaxing.

17. I was drunk so much in a party and even today I do not remember what I did that night. I have to believe all the weird stories that my friends tell me.

18. Went to airport to drop off a friend and flew to India without any planning for a weekend.

19. Slept in almost all the important exams. I wish I used that time in reviewing my answers :P.

20. I shouted out answers in an examination hall ;).

21. Travelled alone to Ho Chi Minh City and actually enjoyed the trip. I am missing that experience these days.

22. Travelled South India for 4 days without a break and sleeping only in the SUV.

23. Did a weird journey to Singarayakonda overnight without knowing the route and address.

There are lot more weird, exciting and amazing things that I want to do. Hope this list grows leaps and bounds and very quick 😉

Have a happy day to you all!

April 7, 2011

Careless

As everyday I & Swetha got ready for running and went out of the house and locked the door. As soon as I locked the door, I realised that I forgot the key inside. I asked Swetha, if she took the key and the answer was negative.

Next step was to call the owner and get the key or totally change the door key. As both the phones were new we did not save the owner’s number in our phones. First step failed.

Source of Photo

Next step was to call the agent and take the owners number. As both the phones were new we did not save the agent’s number in our phones. Second step failed.

Next step was to ask the neighbors if they got the owners number. Luckily one of the neighbor got the number and they called the owner from their phone. I took the address as BLK 919.

We thanked the neighbours and took the taxi to Tampines BLK 919. Taxi driver dropped us at BLK 916 ST 91 Tampines and told us that 919 would be somewhere around. We went around to see where BLK 919 was. Ran around for 30 mins and called the owner twice and still were in the same place with out any success. I asked the local people around if they know where this BLK was. To my surprise they told me that they were here for last 20 years and there is no BLK 919.

I SMSed the owner to send the street number and area. She gave me the same address as where I was standing. I took yet another taxi just to go around the same road and end up near BLK 916. Finally owner lost the patience and she asked us to wait near BLK 916 and she came over.

I and Swetha were telling her the whole story and in fact showed her the sign boards where there was no 919 written. She said it is written there and its just that the light is not ON. I was shocked and looked carefully at the board again.

My owner said “Nine VO Nine” and I heard it as “Nine VON Nine”.

April 1, 2011

Fools Day

Yesterday I got a mail from Ramya with the subject “Singapore osthunna may27th…call chei details cheptha..”.

I got excited and called. Left Voice Message. Ramya called back and here is the conversaton:

I: Hey Ramya good .. so whats the plan?

Ramya: Yeah planning to come to SG after my exam.

Excited yet again

I: Wow thats awesome, we can have a great time.

Ramya: Whats todays date?

Not realizing

I: I dont know. Anyways so tell me is it only SG or other places also? or you will do a stop over enroute to India?

Ramya: You dont remember todays date?

Still did not understand what was coming my way

I: No whats so special. Anyways I am outside and there is lot of disturbance. I Shall go to office and call you.

Finally Ramya couldnt resist

Ramya: APRIL FOOL

source

Oops .. I am a fool

Singapore osthunna may27th…call chei details cheptha.

March 30, 2011

S$1000 Challenge

Swetha has been a vivid follower of TIME in twitter and have been forwarding me all the good articles that she came across. On March 23rd I got a similar mail from Swetha which had a weird subject. I thought this was a spam mail. It read $1000 Challenge. I called Swetha and asked if she has really sent me the mail and should I go ahead and access the link. After confirmation I have clicked the link and read the content.

source of image

To my wonder I read the whole article and got inspired. It was about Chris Butterworth, a marketing manager who recently completed a four-week “$1,000 challenge.” This was very much necessary for me & Swetha as we were going through a unaccounted spending period for last 2 years. We were spending around S$3000 dollars every month other than the rent of S$2000 that we were paying.

After reading the article, the same evening I and Swetha discussed and decided to take this challenge. We identified the areas where we were spending a lot and decided to cut down all those costs. We are starting this challenge on 1st of April and will start tracking all the expenditure until May 1st. We are confident that we would succeed in this challenge and be an inspiration to all other friends of mine who are yet to realise about their expenditure.

March 21, 2011

A Parting Note

Same as last 3 days even today morning everything seemed very good and I was hoping the day to go well. I was not aware of what was in stock for me on this fateful afternoon. It was 3 hours ago when she decided to leave me. Everything happened all of a sudden. Neither me nor anybody else could see it coming. I never anticipated this to happen.

She was very very very important to me for so many reasons. She was always with me in both happy and sad occasions. She stood by me in both tough and glory times. She have always taken care and made sure that I was never alone, and left out. She was my beautiful personal secretary and would do everything for me that is there in her limits – right from waking me up, to help me organize myself, to help me reach my friends, to book my movie tickets, to check my balance sheet etc. She would sing and entertain me when ever I was bored or stressed out. I was always connected with the world when she was with me. I say that she is everything in my life but still she meant a lot in my life. She came into my life unexpectedly and left in the same way abruptly. Neither her arrival nor her departure from my life was expected by me.

Yes, you expected it correctly, I lost my iphone on the day of holi in the cab 😦 . That means – no calls, no music on the move, no alarm clock in the morning, no organizer to remember important dates and activities, no pastime games when bored and no SMS to friends just to kill time during the meetings, most important no facebook and no internet. I can overcome all this just by buying any other stupid phone. But here comes the worst part – I have already lost my 350+ contacts – something I always feared when I heard about this from friends.

I have been depressed since last night. I have been calling my number and I can hear only one voice: “The number you are calling is not available”. I called customer support and blocked my Sim and the only positive point out of this is that I can retain my number, so there is no need to update my phone number to all my friends.

Then after all this anger and frustration, I remembered this song from Munna bhai MBBS –

which has lyrics as

Sapna toota hai to dil kabhi jalta hai
Haan thoda dard hua par chalta  hai
Sapna toota hai to dil kabhi jalta hai
Haan thoda dard hua par chalta  hai

Phir, phir kya hua?
Phir, phir kya hua?
Agle din apne mohalle main aishwarya aayi…
Apna khopdi phir chakkar kha gaya
Phri truck ke saath phir chakkar kha gaya

This has given a boost and went straight to Starhub to renew my contract and took iphone 4. Now I and Swetha are proud owners of iPhone 4. Now I am trying to get a backup for contacts.

March 18, 2011

Ignorance or Stupidity?

A: Hi

B: Hi

A: Do you work on Saturdays?

Surprised B answers

B: No

A: OK, then I will organise the meeting on Monday.

B pissed off